The older i get, i am noticing how important this is. Sleeping on it. What exactly does that mean? Well i can tell you what it means to me.
As human beings, we want to be heard. Starts the moment we leave the womb screaming as if to say here i am. The world is so busy, and it's hard to find our place sometimes. So when we get an opportunity to make a statement, and all eyes are on us, we do it. We say how we feel! i'm learning that sometimes that's the worst time to do it. Because when everyone's watching we tend to maybe say a little more than we would to one or two people. And unfortunately you can't take words back. They tend to linger around allot longer than you meant for them to, and maybe cut a little deeper.
When we are mad/hurt, we get angry. We want to make it better asap. Ease the pain. Stop the bleeding so to say. And right when it happens, we want vengence. No mater how pious you are, we are human, and human emotions tend to control us more than we control them.
Vengeance tends to be our first thought. You want them to feel what you feel! Hurt like you hurt. The last thing we are thinking of in that moment is to pray?! Sleep on it?! No way! You are gonna tell them how you feel! That's your right!
i learned a few years into my marriage that that may not be best the answer. in my efforts for my husband to "understand" what i was feeling, i would push him to "discuss" the disagreements on hand in that moment. As a result, the aruements lasted longer, and got more heated than if i were to sleep on it, and start fresh in the morning. Most of the time our mind can clear with some sleep, and prayer. We are able to see things in a new light.
So wether you are in the right or the wrong, sometimes a good night sleep, (and prayer), can make a world of difference.
So next time you want to vent, pray that God will help you bite your tongue, and sleep on it.