Sometimes the battle of seeing family may be just that, a battle. Hoping Aunt Deb doesn't drink too much, praying you get that bonus to pay for christmas (and the electric bill), smothering feelings of resentment for a family member, trying to just slap a fake smile on your face, and continue on.
Lets face it, its not all candy canes and ho ho ho's. Holidays can be hard. Sadly they can't come without drudging up the past with them. i, like so many of you, have had the good along with the bad. But here's somethings i try to remember during this stressful season. . . . .
#1. Life is not perfect. Let me say it again, . . Life is not perfect. No matter how many lights are up on the tree, or how many gingerbread cookies are made, it doesn't guarantee perfection.
#2. Family is your choice. Now, i may get some flack for this one, but just because you are blood, doesn't guarantee family. i have people in my life that are my chosen family. Friends that are closer to me than some of my sisters. i love that God has blessed me with my extended family in Christ.
#3. Memories are your choice. You can delete them. This one was hard for me, but i realized, holding onto some of these memories just made me resentful and angry, along with making me try so hard to reach an unattainable perfect holiday.
#4. Your parents young or old, did the best they knew how to do. They, along with us were trying to make it through this dark world at times, and slip ups happen, even disasters. You can choose to forgive and move on, or harbor resentment which will steal your joy, and darken your heart.
#5. The most important. Remember what this is all about. Christ beautiful birth. Without it we would be left hopeless and alone, with no way out of our mistakes and misdeeds.
So i beg you to join me in relaxing this holiday season. Give praise to the one who created it. Have the santa, reindeer, cookies, and gifts. But don't forget the reason. And if hot cocoa spills on white carpet, laugh it off. Life is too short to try and make it too perfect.