i like many of you had ideas of how i would mother before it had come to pass. Such as, . . no french fries, no binky, and so on . Silly rules i thought were important in child rearing. And quite frankly, none of my so called "rules" involved God. i mean sure, i would teach them to pray, tell them God loved them, but nothing deeper than that came to pass in my mind.
Growing up i used to get frustrated by my parents rules. i pitied myself being one of the "sheltered" children. There was no mainstream music in our home, what we watched on T.V. was closely monitored by program and time, church on Sunday morning, evening, and Wednesday night, and all sleep overs had to be approved, meaning met their parents and kids. And as i got older, when a date would pick me up, my mother would have him come in, and ask no nonsense questions right away: "Are you a Christian? " "Do you know Jesus died for your sins?" "Do you go to church?" Humiliating! Shockingly most didn't ask for a second date. (Wonder why lol)
That's not to say i never snuck out of the house at night to go to a party (sorry mom), or snuck to watch a soap opera, but most the time it was a one time deal cause i got in so much trouble i never wanted to risk it again. So, in my mind, being sheltered was the worst! Hated it!
Well, fast forward many years later, two crazy boys, and things look allot different now. Yes, i have become "that" mother. Music and television is closely monitored, we do not have violent video games, when my children are disciplined we first ask "was your behavior honoring God?", going to the park i must always be able to see you, (yes, i understand you are 10, but i will probably do this till you are 20.), mom must meet all your friends, and playdates must be first approved by mom or dad. And thats just some of our lovely Ramer household rules.
So with all those strict rules growing up, why do the same to my kiddos? Well, the rules saved me from more than i knew. i didn't know what drugs really were till i was well into my 20's, while all my other friends had partaken in early teens. Didn't drink alcohol till i turned 21. And my mother saved me from dating allot of frogs.
Does this mean that i was perfect in my youth? Of coarse not, but because i was held accountable for my actions, i was less likely to do some of these things.
i only have my boys for so long in this home, and while it isn't free from a mothers tirade from time to time (guilty), it is safe. it is home. So being "that" mom isn't so bad. So in honor of Mothers day, i want to say Thank you to my mom, for being "that" mom, and sheltering me from the storm of life for as long as you could. i love you!