i personally believe i came out of the womb needing human approval. Always wanting people to like me, and if they didn't i would work over time to show them how nice, and great i was. Swallowing my words, (my personality), taking abuse, all to feel that i was ok. i was liked.
it all seems so trivial now. The worry, stress, and wasted time i spent on how others saw me. Phew, i'm exhausted just thinking about it.
Why am i writing about this today? Well, i think we have this misconception that if someone doesn't like us, there is something wrong with them. i thought that for quite some time, (after i got over the people pleasing). i thought "well, its their loss", or "they don't know what they are missing." i no longer believe that.
Did we ever stop to think that maybe we weren't meant to be in that persons life? Or them in ours?
We as humans are an intense mixture of personalities, and emotions. All so unique and different. Why is someone in the wrong if they don't like us? Personalities clash, and thats ok. What isn't ok, is bashing someone else's personality thats doesn't meet your criteria.
How do we get over this hump? How do we stop letting people opinions about us affect us? How do we stop wasting time people pleasing?Are you ready?! Stop it! Just stop!
When you truly understand what God says about it, and believe it, it's easy. When you take the focus off what people think, and put your stock in what God believes its simple. Heres are a few verses to get you started, . . . .
Proverbs 20:24 "A persons steps are directed by the Lord. How then can anyone understand their own way?" We can't possibly understand anyones path in life, and we may not know why we don't mesh, but we know the creator knows, and that is all that should matter.
John 2:25 "He did not need any testimony about mankind, for he knew what was in each person." Boom! mic drop. He knows it all. Everything.
Proverbs 21:2 "A person may think their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart." Stop being judge and jury. Take it to God and leave it at the thrown. Let the Almighty in His infinite wisdom handle it.
i implore you to open your bible. Read. Become confident in who Christ created you to be. Remember it is nice to be liked, but if someone doesn't, thats ok.
Psalm 56:11 "in God i trust and am not afraid. What can man do to me?"