Sadly i get allot of eye rolls when i say that i love to wait on him. Like it's not socially acceptable. "He can get it himself." They snap. (That's not really the point).
Yesterday i saw an older couple in the doctor waiting room. They both had walkers, but you could tell the husband was quite a bit slower. instead of his wife being sympathetic, and waiting patiently she spoke to him like a child. "Hurry up. You're always going so slow." The man carried on with his head down. i felt so sorry for him. Had she been a soft loving wife at one time? Had he ever known kindness from her?
Now don't get me wrong, i'm not perfect and i have fallen into this trap. it's a slippery slope though, and once you start sometimes you can't stop talking. How rarely we share good marital experiences. So what if hubby didn't help you clean, or forgot to take out the trash. in the scheme of things does it really matter? You know, we aren't always the blushing bride he married.
it says in Proverbs 12:4 "A wife of noble character is her husbands crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." Yikes! i don't know about you, but i got that message loud and clear.
i have always believed that you treat him (a good man) like a king, he will treat you like a queen. So lets be the crown on our husbands head. Let's not vent, or belittle them. Let's hold their hand through this marriage and stop telling them they are moving too slow.
Better to live in a dessert than with a quarrelsome wife.