i have come to hate secrets. i don't want to know. if the sentence starts with "ok, dont tell anyone but. . . " , or " So and so told me. . . " don't tell me! Especially if it's about me!
Sometimes we feel we are sharing something helpful. Like if someone says something about our friend, we want them to know right? (Proverbs 16:28 "A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip seprates close friends.") Does it really help a friend to know hurtful things said about them? i ask you this. What's your motivation in sharing this snippet of info.? To make yourself look better? Show them what a good friend we are? Now, as the saying goes, there are exceptions to every rule.
i personally don't want to know what someone says behind my back. i mean come on, it's behind your back for a reason. Let's be careful when sharing information that can affect relationships. i don't want to be angry with someone for something they may, or may not have said. And remember, we are hearing it out of context. That makes a difference!
Proverbs 26:20 "Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down." Don't be that log on the fire that keeps it burning. i have been that log, and you will get burned.